fake relationship in perspective of non muslim ( some of it, bole diaccept betol hujahnya)
Last week we pondered why men are reluctant to extricate themselves from relationships that don’t fulfil them – aka fakelationships. This week, here are seven signs that you might actually be in one of those fakelationships yourself...
You haven’t met his parentsIt’s scary when you’re introduced to the potential in-laws, but perhaps you should be more worried if they’ve never heard of you. This either means he doesn’t see any future with you, or he's just embarrassed because he's the lovechild of John Major and Edwina Currie. Either way, it doesn’t bode well.He doesn’t want to move in with youSome fakelationships last for several blissful, if ultimately pointless, years but their make-or-break moment often arrives when someone suggests sharing a place. Many men are happy to stay in a fakelationship for ages providing they have a quick and easy get-out clause – but there’s nothing quick or easy about lugging a box of ‘Sopranos’ DVDs and an acoustic guitar down some stairs and into a removal van while a woman shouts at you.
He still goes out with his mates a lotGuys will always go out with their mates but it’s reasonable to expect that when they’re in a serious relationship, they’ll do it less. So if he’s regularly coming home in the early hours smelling of WKD and kebab, maybe he doesn’t take the relationship very seriously.
When he goes out with his mates, he never invites youThere are two reasons that men have a “lads’ night out”: a) to pull girls or b) to talk about girls. So even if you’re confident he isn’t out chasing other women, there’s still some reason he wants you out of the picture. Most likely, he wants to discuss stuff with his mates that he would never tell you.
He doesn’t want to change his Facebook statusSome guys would be prepared to proclaim their devotion to you anywhere... except Facebook. That’s because you’re not just telling a few close friends you’re unavailable, but virtually everyone you know; exes, colleagues, hot girls you added after meeting them once, even parents (see above). I have a friend who - after being nagged by his fakelationship girlfriend to change his status - spent several hours editing his settings so that when she looked at his profile he would be ‘in a relationship’ but when anyone else viewed it he’d be listed as ‘single’. (Yes, you can do that.)
He’s uncomfortable with the term ‘boyfriend’Sometimes men get into fakelationships by accident. They like to start off thinking they’re in a kind of undefined sexual friendship but somewhere along the way they are compelled – or forced – to make things ‘official’. But it doesn’t mean this was ever their intention, or desire, and he may remain uneasy with it.
He has an aversion to planning aheadFakelationships are fragile and can end at any point, so their male protagonists can be reluctant to nail down future events too far in advance. If he’s desperate to see you next week but glazes over whenever you mention going to Thailand on holiday next summer, perhaps he doesn’t fancy the long haul in more ways than one.
Last week we pondered why men are reluctant to extricate themselves from relationships that don’t fulfil them – aka fakelationships. This week, here are seven signs that you might actually be in one of those fakelationships yourself...You haven’t met his parentsIt’s scary when you’re introduced to the potential in-laws, but perhaps you should be more worried if they’ve never heard of you. This either means he doesn’t see any future with you, or he's just embarrassed because he's the lovechild of John Major and Edwina Currie. Either way, it doesn’t bode well.He doesn’t want to move in with youSome fakelationships last for several blissful, if ultimately pointless, years but their make-or-break moment often arrives when someone suggests sharing a place. Many men are happy to stay in a fakelationship for ages providing they have a quick and easy get-out clause – but there’s nothing quick or easy about lugging a box of ‘Sopranos’ DVDs and an acoustic guitar down some stairs and into a removal van while a woman shouts at you. He still goes out with his mates a lotGuys will always go out with their mates but it’s reasonable to expect that when they’re in a serious relationship, they’ll do it less. So if he’s regularly coming home in the early hours smelling of WKD and kebab, maybe he doesn’t take the relationship very seriously.When he goes out with his mates, he never invites youThere are two reasons that men have a “lads’ night out”: a) to pull girls or b) to talk about girls. So even if you’re confident he isn’t out chasing other women, there’s still some reason he wants you out of the picture. Most likely, he wants to discuss stuff with his mates that he would never tell you.He doesn’t want to change his Facebook statusSome guys would be prepared to proclaim their devotion to you anywhere... except Facebook. That’s because you’re not just telling a few close friends you’re unavailable, but virtually everyone you know; exes, colleagues, hot girls you added after meeting them once, even parents (see above). I have a friend who - after being nagged by his fakelationship girlfriend to change his status - spent several hours editing his settings so that when she looked at his profile he would be ‘in a relationship’ but when anyone else viewed it he’d be listed as ‘single’. (Yes, you can do that.)He’s comfortable with the term ‘boyfriend’Sometimes men get into fakelationships by accident. They like to start off thinking they’re in a kind of undefined sexual friendship but somewhere along the way they are compelled – or forced – to make things ‘official’. But it doesn’t mean this was ever their intention, or desire, and he may remain uneasy with it. He has an aversion to planning aheadFakelationships are fragile and can end at any point, so their male protagonists can be reluctant to nail down future events too far in advance. If he’s desperate to see you next week but glazes over whenever you mention going to Thailand on holiday next summer, perhaps he doesn’t fancy the long haul in more ways than one.
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